10 Ways for Teachers to Connect with Students

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Developing positive student-teacher relationships is a breeze when you practice these ten ways to connect with students.

Positive Student-Teacher Relationships: 10 Ways to Connect with Kids

Ways to Build Positive Student-Teacher Relationships

We all know that teaching is more than just passing on facts to students. We know that teaching is about equipping, motivating, influencing, and shaping kids to become lifelong learners and successful adults. Additionally, it teaches them how to interact with others and be productive citizens.

One of our most powerful tools for accomplishing these goals is positive student-teacher relationships. When they trust us, they are more able and willing to learn from us. The following are some ways to build positive student-teacher connections during the time you have together in the classroom or online when we are teaching remotely.

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Ways to Build Positive Student-Teacher Relationships
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1. Positive Student-Teacher Relationships Require Getting to Know Your Students

This is the place to start! How can you have a relationship with people you don’t know?

Seek to learn about your students and show genuine interest in them. Many of these ideas work nicely toward the beginning of the school year. Repeat them as new students enter the classroom or join you virtually.

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Alternatively, repeat them at the end of the year to see how they have changed over the year.

“All About Me” – Build confidence by having students write and share about themselves so that you can learn more about them. Schedule a few kids to share each day and encourage them to bring in something special to school or to share during an online morning meeting.
Back-to-School Community Building Activities – These activities are the perfect complement to your start-of-school lesson plans. Discover mini-lesson ideas and engaging activities that foster connections in the classroom and teach valuable social and emotional skills to children during the most crucial time of year.
Interview your students – Have a sit-down or face-to-face talk online with each student, asking them serious or fun questions to learn more about them.
Presentations – Have students create a presentation about their life and present it to the class. Listen and ask questions after each presentation. This might be an excellent activity to repeat at the end of the school year to demonstrate how they have grown and changed.

2. Listen to Your Students

As teachers, we can become so focused on the tasks we want to accomplish. We sometimes forget to slow down and truly listen to our students.

Establishing and maintaining a connection with students is vital and takes deliberate effort. Here are some ideas for maintaining open lines of communication.

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Morning meetings – this routine requires the whole class to come together each day and is a favorite routine among many teachers. During this time, listen to your students and find out what they’re interested in, what their biggest worries are, and validate or repeat them, so they know you hear them and understand.
Dialogue journals – This tool can serve as an ongoing way to stay in touch with students. Each student has a journal in which the teacher may ask a question or write a thought. Afterward, the student responds. The conversation can continue back and forth, covering a wide range of topics.
“Office time” – If possible, schedule some time in the mornings or during periods when students are not in your room, so you are available if a student needs to discuss an issue with you. By letting the students know when this “office time” is, they will be able to come and talk to you alone, without their classmates listening. Offer “virtual office hours” for when you are available to meet with students online.
Ice-Breaker games – These are fun ways to get students connecting in different ways. Discover many enjoyable community-building activities, as well as get-to-know-you games that work well for in-person teaching.

3. Develop a Positive Classroom Environment

If students are part of a positive class environment, they are more likely to be able to relax and connect to those around them. As teachers, we have considerable influence in setting the tone of the classroom.

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Use a positive rewards system – Rather than emphasizing the negative and punishments, focus on rewarding positive behavior. Here is a set of editable reward coupons you can use that don’t involve the prize box. You can use Class Dojo to track the rewards your students earn, whether you are in the classroom or online.
Speak Calmly – A calm demeanor and slow, precise, and gentle speech are contagious. Even when things inside seem chaotic, stay calm and lead the way to productive conversations and effective leadership. Encouraging children to remain calm and develop self-regulation strategies will lead to healthier relationships in the future.
Morning meetings – Incorporate morning meeting time into each day as a way to connect with your students. Here are some great slides you can use throughout the year to facilitate conversation in your morning meeting time.
Encourage kindness – Children will learn how to be kind to peers and authority figures when you set the tone and expectations for behavior, as well as provide learning opportunities for practicing kindness.

4. Develop Strategies to Deal with Stress and Frustration

One of the main hurdles to developing positive relationships with kids is our own frustration and impatience with them. Teaching (and parenting!) is hard. The truth is, dealing with little people all day can take a toll on our patience. Try some of these tips to decrease your stress so that you don’t miss out on crucial moments of connection with your kids.

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Music – Play relaxing music at appropriate times in the classroom. By doing so, you reduce the stress level in the school. Lowering the lights may also help. Try a classical music or productivity playlist to encourage focus and a calm environment for all!
Organization – Stay organized! Disorganization can cause us to miss opportunities to connect with students. Keep an orderly and well-run system of classroom organization to alleviate some of the pressure.
Relax and Have Fun – Try to bring light, enjoyable activities in the classroom or online whenever possible. Fun Friday is a great way to build fun into your classroom routines! Allow kids to select a “choice” activity for a chunk of the day and spend time with them during this time.
Just Breathe – Practice breathing exercises to calm your mind and body. Teachers and students benefit greatly from slowing down and practicing mindfulness.
Focus on the positives – Each week, make a habit of writing down three good things that happened that week (or day). Practicing gratitude is a beneficial practice with positive results!
Read children’s books – Prepare a bookshelf full of positive, social-emotional learning books, or have online versions of books read aloud, ready to play during meetings, which will benefit you and the kids throughout the year.

5. Teach and Model Positive Relationship Principles

We must teach by example. Teach kids how to interact positively with one another and with us. They watch how we act and model their behavior after ours. But they also have to be directly taught certain principles.

Show kindness – Practicing kindness – and teaching it – can and should be encouraged! Here is a lesson plan bundle that can help you teach about kindness.
Teach Character – Focus on a “character trait of the week or month.” There are numerous opportunities to influence students positively. Teaching social-emotional learning in the classroom can yield numerous benefits.
Read & Share – Read books and share videos that address character traits. Here are lists of books and videos that reinforce essential social-emotional skills: responsibility, respect, kindness, friendship, self-regulation, and growth mindset.
Pretend – Role-play how to act in certain situations. Sometimes kids don’t behave appropriately because they don’t know how to. Spend time teaching kids how to listen and communicate appropriately and respectfully.

6. Give Students a Voice in the Daily Routine

By letting kids have some influence on the daily routines of the class, they can take more ownership of the class. They will feel more valued and accepted.

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Find their interests – Administer surveys to determine students’ interests and incorporate them into your lessons.
Comment/Suggestion box – For teachers in the classroom, having a comment box is a good plan. Kids can write down concerns or suggestions in a non-threatening way.
Rules Ownership – Let students help develop your classroom rules and expectations. Develop a classroom contract to help set the stage for a positive year!
Student displays – Encourage kids to create decorations for the classroom, so they feel a greater sense of ownership in the space. Displaying projects and artwork on the walls creates a colorful atmosphere that they can feel pride in. For students who are at home, encourage them to display their work on the fridge or a dedicated space and to upload images to share with the class.

7. Set a Respectful Tone

Student-teacher relationships will be much better if there is mutual respect.

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Patience – Don’t interrupt students when they are speaking. Practice “the pause” – wait a few seconds before responding, giving thought to their comments or questions first.
Validation – Allow students to voice their opinions, even if you disagree with them. Show them by example how to respectfully disagree without belittling or disregarding their beliefs or views. Validating them builds confidence and helps them open up to you more.
Explicitly teach respect – Use these lessons, which address topics such as respect in the classroom. Teaching respect has a considerable effect on the classroom community.

8. Positive Student-Teacher Relationships Includes Parents

Fostering good relationships with parents will help with the student-teacher connection. It is essential that teachers not forget the great ally they have in their parents.

Access to Information – Have an online platform (such as a website, Google Classroom, or SeeSaw) or a folder that is accessible at home or used daily, so that communication can flow smoothly between teacher and parent. As a result, this will positively impact the connections with both the student and their parents.
Share the positives – Make sure to let parents know about the positive things their child does, not just the negative. For those teaching remotely, ask families to periodically share positive things their child is accomplishing at home and celebrate them during a class meeting.
Invitation to Help – Invite parents to take on a more active role in the classroom and at home, when possible. There’s always a place where they can join in the fun and lend a helping hand.

Letting your guard down a little will break down barriers with your students. When they see you as a real human, not a “perfect” teacher, they will find you more approachable.

What matters to you – Bring in something important to you and tell the class about it. Alternatively, you can share a special item with your students online, allowing them to learn more about you and your life.
Personal Tidbits – Share a few pictures of your family or photos from the trips you have taken. You could even enlarge photos of past class field trips or events and post them around the room as conversation starters.
Tell Stories – Share funny stories or even sad ones with your students. Tell them about what things were like when you were in school.
Read – Introduce them to your personal favorite children’s books and stories.

10. Make Personal Connections Each Day

Speaking to your students as they enter the classroom and exit will help them feel like a vital part of the class. If you are teaching remotely, start the day with a virtual greeting and a question.

Beginning of the day – Stand in your doorway in the morning to greet students with a smile and a personal greeting by name. Welcoming them ensures that each child has a personal one-on-one connection with you each day.
End of the day – Have an exit question that the kids must answer at the end of the day to leave the room. Maybe this is connected to a lesson that was taught. Or, perhaps it is merely an answer to a question about the weekend. There are so many options. But it allows each student to be acknowledged as they leave the class for the day.

Although it requires some effort, making meaningful connections with your students is well worth the investment. Your classroom, whether in person or online, will run more smoothly, your students will increase their success, and you will have the joy of knowing that you are positively impacting others’ lives. It’s time to put some strategies into action!

Resources to Help You Build Positive Relationships in the Classroom

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